Simple Ways (college dating tips) To Keep The Romance Alive
By rodrigo rehn
Whether you are married or have just been in a committed relationship for awhile, you know things can get stale really fast. Through the day to day obstacles that we all have to navigate romance can often be forgotten, but it doesn’t have to be.
You can keep the romance alive in some really simple and even fun ways. Never take the romance for granted, instead find ways to keep the romance alive.
A great way to keep the romance alive is by making time for one another regularly. Many people don’t like the idea of scheduled time for the relationship, but sometimes it really is necessary. Many times, this scheduled time will be something that you look forward to so much that you forget that it was scheduled at all.
Once a month at the very least you should make sure that there is time for just the two of you without the distractions of work, kids, or household chores. Go out to dinner, out to a movie, enjoy drinks on the patio, or pizza in the candlelight on the living room floor. You can keep it simple, but make sure you do it regularly.
Another great way to keep the romance alive is to surprise one another with loving gestures. Don’t wait until birthdays, holidays, or Valentines Day to give cards and gifts, instead do it all throughout the year. You don’t have to wait for special days, in fact the little gifts and cards will mean more when they are unexpected. Send flowers to the office, bring flowers and a card home, surprise one another with a favorite candy. These little things are little, but they mean a lot, especially when they are not expected.
You can keep things fresh and exciting by ensuring that you don’t take your loved one for granted. One of the worst things that we do in relationships is take the other for granted, but even the most well intentioned people do this. Instead of taking all of the little things that your partner does for you for granted, tell them thank you when they do something nice for you.
Even the little things that they do for you should be something that you thank them for. Remember that when you compliment someone on something or you tell them thank you that they are more likely to do it again. Keep things fresh by appreciating everything that is done for you.
As you can see, it doesn’t have to be difficult to keep things fresh, exciting, and to keep the romance alive. You simply need to be dedicated to keeping things exciting and be willing to go out of your way to do so. Relationships can be a lot of fun when you want them to be, so work at it!
Rodrigo Rehn is a Relationships Expert, Linux Systems Administrator, Web Programmer, PHP Developer and CEO of FaceRomance online dating for singles.
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Creating Good Healthy Relationships
By Ben Needles
When it comes down to it we all want good relationships. Not only with that special someone, but also all of our relationships; family, friends, work colleagues. The fundamentals of any good healthy relationship are the same. For now we will focus on our primary relationship with our partner, but these ideas can apply to any and all of our relating to others.
Open, honest clear communication is the first non-negotiable. If we cant talk about what we feel, think, and want then we trip up at the first step. So often people feel that they have to be a certain way for someone else to love them. They cant say that because their partner might not agree. They cant do this because their partner doesnt like it. But ask yourself this; do I want to playing a false role for the rest of my life that is not me? Do I want to hide a part of me to make another feel comfortable? Do I want to negate my wishes for my life to make someone else feel better? Put like that the answer is normally No.
True relationship is one where we share the totality of ourselves, to the best of our ability at any given moment in time. This is very different from the myths and fairytales we were brought up to believe. In those we were told that we were not whole until we had found that special person who would complete us. This is not true. We are whole as we stand. To want someone to fill us up is to ask the impossible of another. Sooner or later it has to fail. Good, healthy relationships are when we say here I am, warts and all, and I want to share all of me with all of you (warts and all!).
Our relationships are the biggest learning ground we have. A teacher once said put two people together and they will teach each other more about themselves than any self enquiry. We are the grist for each others mill. We are supposed to learn from each other, those little things that drive us crazy are showing us something about ourselves. Our relationships are the greatest mirror that will ever be held up in front of our eyes.
So often we leave relationships because they dont work only to find ourselves in yet another similar situation. This is because it is not the other person who needs to change but ourselves. Instead of blaming the other we need to look at where our responsibility lies within any situation and own our part in it.
That first special stomach churning, heart fluttering moment is the true connection you have with another person. This is before any of the stuff kicks in. It is a heart felt moment when two souls say hi. If we can come back to that clear moment and operate from there then our communication will always serve us. Instead of playing the role we think they want us to play we will be bringing all of ourselves to the present moment. It might mean that there will be times when one or the other in the relationship might say something that hurts. Truth sometimes does. This is not intentional, but because sometimes we dont want to hear the truth. But if we can stay true to ourselves in that moment and hear what the other is saying, without too strong a reaction, it nearly always holds great learning.
Our relationships enable us to grow as human beings, to share the best of who we are in any moment. They will be joyful, painful, fun filled, frustrating, inspiring, annoying, uplifting and all other emotions in between. But you know they will be real, and they will be an expression of a love far greater than we can imagine.
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