Midnight Sweethearts

By Harrold Carter

 Everyone is prejudiced in some way. If two people offered to babysit my children and one was a known sex offender, I would choose the other with little thought. This is discrimination, no question. But it would be one that any loving parent would make. If someone asked me to go to a bar, I would refuse. I’m prejudiced against the atmosphere and influence that a bar has.

Since we all have these prejudices, we need to govern them. It is the governing of our bias and prejudices that is so important in our relationships and to function correctly in society.

Here are two principles that you may want to consider in governing your prejudices and discrimination.

DISCRIMINATE ABOUT SOMEONE’S INFLUENCE NOT THEIR PERSONALITY

Using the illustration of the sex offender, it isn’t the personality that I discriminate against, but rather the influence and values such an individual will have in my family.

Long ago, I worked in a factory near Chicago. Some of my coworkers there once asked me to go the bar with them. I refused. Not because I didn’t like them, or thought they were evil and wicked. I refused because of the influence such a place would have on me. In the work environment, we got along famously. I just couldn’t go with them to the bar.

In dealing with people and relationships, judge it by the influence on you and those around you. Don’t judge personalities. A man in Bible College rubbed me the wrong way with his personality. For a solid year, I discriminated against him due to this one thing that he had done. Eventually, we were forced to work together and became good friends. This could have happened a lot sooner if I hadn’t discriminated against his personality.

Values will often determine the influence. Since I pastor a Church, I won’t ever hire an atheist to fulfill a Church position. Our value systems will be so different that it will build a tense and uncomfortable working environment.

DISCRIMINATE ABOUT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY NOT YOUR ASSISTANCE

I must make many of my decisions based on my position as a Pastor, as a husband, as a Christian, and as a father. These decisions are sometimes discriminatory in nature. I have certain responsibilities and duties that these positions demand I see to.

I won’t be alone with a woman unless it is my wife. That is discrimination and prejudice. But then I married one particular woman and made certain vows and promises to her. These responsibilities mean that I will sometimes discriminate in order to fulfill my duties.

An ambassador must seek the best interests of the country he represents. This is his responsibility. His prejudices lie with his home country. This is the way it ought to be. He will seek to get the best circumstances in a negotiation as he can. It is not his job to be fair. I don’t seek to be fair in my time with other women or other children. I have responsibilities to my own.

But, to refuse aid and assistance to someone just because you don’t like them is wrong. I don’t look at someone and judge if they are worthy of my aid or care. God said to love our enemies.

If someone asks me for money to help with a need, I don’t determine if I will or won’t help based on the asker. Rather, I will look to see if by doing so, I will be unable to fulfill a responsibility. If the amount asked for will prevent me from caring for my family, I may refuse. However, I don’t make my determination on who asks, or how they look, or if they can return the favor or not.

An employer may have to chose the most capable person for a job and discriminate against those less able. He has a responsibility to his company and mission. He shouldn’t make that decision based on the person’s skin color or other factor that does not impair that persons’ ability to do the required job.

As a Pastor, I may not hire an atheist because his values would impair his ability to work with me in a ministry dedicated to God, but I would stop and help him change a tire or give him food when he is hungry.

Love ought to be indiscriminate.

Harrold Carter is a well published author in diet, health, and fitness but also writes on topics such as double stroller and sports.

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Creating Your Album Of Memories From Your Travels

By Jonathan Bryson

 Nowadays people almost always have a camera on hand when traveling . This is because pictures give us a chance to freeze a moment in our lives and save it for posterity. With a camera in hand, you can always capture anything even whenever something happens unexpectedly. On this page, you will learn some reminders you should do to make your photographs filled with excitement making your travel more memorable.

People usually love telling their adventures after they go on a trip. Most are enthusiastic to share what they experienced and what they saw or where they went. Photos will make wonderful focus story points when sharing your experiences. Photos are the only item you can use when you narrate a story about your trip. You can shoot from the start of your trip until the end of it.

A nice tip in taking pictures is to capture interesting places or landmarks. One lovely thing to capture are food stalls, beautiful landmarks, trees that are unique. You do not know if you will be able to go back ever again. Always bring a camera and shoot pictures of your trip.

Aside from the different locations you can find from those places, make photographs of the people living there, too. It would be better if you could join with the local crowd and take pictures together. This kind of picture will be nice to reminisce over after a few years time.

It would also be fun if you can get to wear the native costume of the place you are visiting. Wearing other nationalitys costumes is a cultural activity you can do with your photographs. Getting involved in dancing while wearing native costumes will be so funny to reminisce about and will be a cultural experience for you as well. Doing so will give you a wonderful memory to keep for years to come.

Photographs are wonderful items to stoke the fire of your memory in the coming years. Life passes us by in a blink but we can preserve certain memories we hold dear in our hearts.

For the special moments in life you need photographs so use this San Diego photographer service. Your wedding moments can last forever with this San Diego Wedding photographer.

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