Midnight Sweethearts

By Morgana Rae A

 ”Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds.” William Shakespeare

First the facts: John M. Gottman, PhD, the country’s foremost relationship expert, found that what set apart marriages that succeeded (as opposed to the 67% of first marriages that ended in divorce) was a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. He found that even the little things counted–a smile, a pat, a “thank you.” This magic ratio isn’t confined to marriage. The same story applies to all relationships.*

Here’s my favorite tool for an instant relationship upgrade: Appreciation Loops. You can use them any time you like, in any relationship, without conditions. You can feel a shift in the dynamic immediately.

Appreciation loops go like this: Take a moment to say to your partner, “What I appreciate about you is…” and fill in the end of the sentence. Honesty is crucial. Try this without planning or even knowing where your sentence is going to end. See what comes up.

The power of this practice lies in its independence from the other person’s action. Your appreciation is not contingent on your partner’s behavior. You are not saying “I would appreciate you if…” Nothing is more powerful than not trying to change the other.

Instead, appreciation works like a railroad switch for when you’re going down the wrong track: “We interrupt this regularly scheduled unhappiness to focus on the positive!”

Notice how unnatural this feels in the middle of conflict and insecurity. What becomes possible when you face your partner and say “What I appreciate about you is…”? When you change your focus to the positive, your world changes.

Using this practice when the relationship is already thriving is like building a bank account to draw on later.

“Beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing there’s a field. Will you meet me there?”
Rumi

*This practice is not intended to “fix” a toxic relationship. Any relationship in which violence, drug abuse, or mental health problems are involved needs assistance from appropriate professionals.

Morgana Rae, an internationally acclaimed expert on wealth manifestation, is the owner of Charmed Life Coaching, a successful life and business coaching company that guides entrepreneurs to attract more than they chase, market effectively and inexpensively, and to RADICALLY change their Relationship with Money. Grab your FREE MONEY MAGNET MP3 at http://www.abundanceandprosperity.com. Contact Morgana at http://www.abundanceandprosperity.com.

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You Need to Check Your Relationship If You Are Seeing These Signs

By Lara Sandellis

 Are you in a relationship and just know that something is wrong? Had it been there for a while or did it just show itself to you? Sometimes these little problems might be kept from you by someone else. But even then you might find yourself with the nagging feeling that something is very wrong.

If you even think for one minute that this might be happening you need to find out right away so that you might be able to fix it. There are warning signs and you really need to watch for any of these signs. This might be that starting to have to work late and then it becoming more often.

It could be the not wanting to spend much time at home. They might even start hanging with a younger or different group of people. All of these might be a reason for the change and then nothing might be going but you think something is. If you feel like there is something to be worried about go to that person and ask. When you go be prepared for what ever could happen. You might find that it is to late for this relationship of yours to survive. Then again if you see these signs early enough you might be able to turn it back to your favor.

With any relationship you have to both find ways to keep this relationship of your fresh. It takes much work and dedication from you both to last the stand of time. It is not up to just one of you to work at this. With only one working they might end up making the whole matter worse. You might even cause this other person to end up going to the one you are trying to get them away from. There are some things that you can do to try to put back this spark but remember that when trying to do this that you do not do something that you would not normally do.

We are always looking to find that right special person and we need to make sure that we do everything we can to keep it fresh. This is usually for those of you that are fairly young in your relationship as those of you that have been together for years have already been through this and are happy and comfortable with their mates. You older couples just do not need to worry about trying to go with the younger crowd. They are just happy with ones their own age.

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The Unfortunate Ending To A Relationship

By Joseph Beam

 Have you found yourself in an unfortunate ending to one of your relationships? Did you cause it to fail or did someone else cause the problem? This could be the act of someone coming between you and your mate or you simply saying something yourself. If you happen to hear something that was said about a person you know, be it your mate or a friend, try to find the truth before you end up sticking in your two cents’ worth. This might be something that is not even true and then again it could be. It will be up to you to find the answer.

If it comes out to be true and really bad, it will be unfortunate for both of you as this relationship will probably end. It will be up to you to try to make it end as easily as possible. You will be hurt as this is a given because you really loved this person and can not believe that they could have done something this terrible. But remember that with any relationship it is up to both people involved so you can not really lay all of the blame on just one of you. There might have been something in ones character that you refused to see. This is one reason why you really want to check and recheck ones character before jumping into a relationship of any kind.

If you happen to think or feel that a person is too good to be true, do not push these feelings aside as there might be something you do not want in this person. You might find that they have had several relationships and that they had all failed for the same thing. You might have found that with each of these they cheated. You might think that you could change them only to find that they have done this to you. By the time you find this out you will have no choice but to step out of it. In some cases you might even find yourself left with no money, a big stack of bills and small children you have to take of.

This happen a lot as our courts are full of all of these unfortunate bad relationships. It can be made worse if this other person leaves you and then tries to keep in your life only through the children. The problem with this is the main ones getting hurt besides you are the children.

Joseph Beam is a writer and you can visit his websites at adult toys and Fleshlight.

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