(Online dating tips) Tips To Aging Gracefully

January 2nd, 2010 admin Posted in relationships |

By Rhonda Mitchel

We do not all keep our youthful vigor into old age. It is normal for aging to cause changes in your body. Sometimes these changes mean a change to your once bountiful sex life. While there are solutions in adult toys, advancements have brought us other solutions as well.

Female changes vary. Sometimes you will enjoy sex more as you age, especially if you have hit menopause or had a hysterectomy. Both those things mean no more periods and no more pregnancy. Grey hair and wrinkles aside, you can lead an active sex life right up until you die if your health permits it. For some women these same conditions make her feel less desirable to the opposite sex.

While vibrators and sex toys can help, wrinkles, grey hair, and no more reproductive organs can be a factor in not feeling as feminine or valid as you once did. This feeling can change how she views sex. She may also notice that there are differences in the way her sex organs behave. When women get older, their genitals narrow and shorten up. The vaginal walls can grow thin and stiff. While a woman can still have sex as she ages, she will find that she provides less natural lubrication than in her youth. Lubricants are available over the counter to combat the uncomfortable dryness that creaps up on you with age. The same water based lube you have used all your life will work both for intercourse and your adult toys.

Men grow old gracefully, but not without problems. Impotence and erectile problems are very common in men. What is impotence? It is when he does not have the ability to get or maintain an erection satisfactory for penetration. One of every 4 or 5 men that qualify for their senior citizen discount will have this problem once in awhile. On websites selling adult toys you can find pumps that will enhance size and performance to combat this problem.

Men with heart disease are expecially succeptable to erectile performance problems. The same can be said for high blood pressure and diabetes. The cause can be the illness itself or the medicines used to treat it.

Speaking of medication, some medication you take can effect your sexual performance. This is true for both men and women. Unless your health problem has you bed ridden, cheer up. Most health problems will not have your doctor banning you from sexual activity.

Rhonda Mitchel is a writer and you can visit her marital aids site and learn about how vibrators can enhanse your marriage.

Love, Torcha - New Author, Jason Linton, Releases his First Novel analyzing the emotional and spiritual ambitions that motivate us to do what we do.

By Brian L. Knack

Greenville, SC November 9, 2009 — Just in time for the holidays, Jason Linton has made his epic novel LOVE, TORCHA available to the public.

LOVE, TORCHA pursues the complex pains of a young couple, K’von and Kimberly Freemman, and their friends in their relational struggle to know love. During this journey, we see the interactions of this group as they deal the aftermath of their decisions. At long last, seeing their true selves reflected in a mirror and finding out what true love is and where it comes from.

The story features enormous thematic depth, heartbreaking romance, and real life drama of people aspiring to find love in their lives. It questions every day life and the struggles we go through on a daily basis. It’s a romance about real life. Love, Torcha isn’t about fairy tales and fanciful escapades; it’s about real people living in the moment, making mistakes, struggling to find their priorities, and learning along the way what love and life are really about.

In LOVE, TORCHA, readers meet several characters who expand the approach of storytelling. Forgo any preconceived idea’s of plot and climax. Prepare your mind to be shocked by a story that is so honest and true. You will be humbled and overwhelmed by the raw emotion and pure honesty on these pages. The layers and depth of this book allow you, the reader, to become a part of the superficial action and to feel and empathize with the deeper reasonings behind why people do what they do. Dive into the hearts and minds of its people. Savor each page.

Jason Linton is a Born-Again Christian who came to know his savior later in life. Prior to growing and learning about Christ, Jason has endured much of what his characters have. LOVE, TORCHA, his first published book, has been in release for three months this week. Jason is happily married and lives in Taylors, SC. He has 5 daughters and a beautiful new granddaughter.

LOVE, TORCHA is available through online retailers Amazon & B&N and at http://www.torcha.net

The Power of Appreciation

By Morgana Rae A

”Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds.” William Shakespeare

First the data: John M. Gottman, PhD, the country’s foremost relationship expert, found that what set apart marriages that succeeded (as opposed to the 67% of first marriages that ended in divorce) was a magic ratio of 5:1 positive to negative interactions. He found that even the smallest gestures counted–a smile, a pat, a “thank you.” This magic ratio isn’t confined to marriage. The same principle applies to all relationships.*

Here’s my favorite tool for improve the ratio: Appreciation Loops. You can use them any time you like, in any relationship, without dependence on the moods or actions of your partner. You can feel a shift in the dynamic immediately.

Appreciation loops go like this: Take a moment to say to your partner, “What I appreciate about you is…” and fill in the end of the sentence. Honesty is crucial. Try this without planning or even knowing where your sentence is going to end. See what comes up.

The magic of this practice lies in its independence from the other person’s action. Your appreciation is not contingent on your partner’s behavior. You are not saying “I would appreciate you if…” Nothing is more powerful than not trying to change the other.

Instead, appreciation works like a railroad switch for when you’re going down the wrong track: “We interrupt this regularly scheduled unhappiness to focus on the positive!”

Notice how challenging this can be in the middle of a fight. What becomes possible when you face your partner and say “What I appreciate about you is…”? When you change your focus to the positive, your world changes.

Using this tool when the relationship is already thriving is like building a bank account to draw on later.

“Beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing there’s a field. Will you meet me there?”
Rumi

I challenge you to try this formula on three relationships this month:
the relationship that’s most important to you at this moment,
the relationship that needs it the most right now,
and the relationship that needs it the least.

Share your discoveries with me at http://www.howtobeamoneymagnet.com

*This practice is not intended to “fix” a toxic relationship. Any relationship in which violence, drug abuse, or mental health problems are involved needs assistance from appropriate professionals.

Morgana Rae, an internationally acclaimed expert on wealth manifestation, is the owner of Charmed Life Coaching, a successful life and business coaching company that guides entrepreneurs to attract more than they chase, market effectively and inexpensively, and to RADICALLY change their Relationship with Money. Grab your FREE MONEY MAGNET MP3 at http://www.abundanceandprosperity.com. Contact Morgana at http://www.abundanceandprosperity.com.

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