(Teenage dating tips) The Appreciation Project

October 30th, 2009 admin Posted in relationships |

By Morgana Rae A

”Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds.” William Shakespeare

First the data: John M. Gottman, PhD, the country’s foremost relationship expert, found that what set apart marriages that succeeded (as opposed to the 67% of first marriages that ended in divorce) was a magic ratio of 5:1 positive to negative interactions. He found that even the smallest gestures counted–a smile, a pat, a “thank you.” This magic ratio isn’t confined to romance. The same story applies to all relationships.*

Here’s my favorite trick for improve the ratio: Appreciation Loops. You can use them any time you like, in any relationship, without conditions. You can feel a shift in the dynamic immediately.

Appreciation loops follow this formula: Take a moment to say to your partner, “What I appreciate about you is…” and fill in the end of the sentence. Honesty is crucial. Try this without planning or even knowing where your sentence is going to end. See what comes up.

The magic of this practice lies in its independence from the other person’s action. Your appreciation is not contingent on your partner’s behavior. You are not saying “I would appreciate you if…” Nothing is more powerful than not trying to change the other.

Instead, appreciation works like a circuit breaker to interrupt negative cycles: “We interrupt this regularly scheduled unhappiness to focus on the positive!”

Notice how challenging this can be in the middle of conflict and insecurity. What becomes possible when you face your partner and say “What I appreciate about you is…”? When you change your focus to the positive, your world changes.

Using this practice when the relationship is already thriving is like building a bank account to draw on later.

“Beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing there’s a field. Will you meet me there?”
Rumi

See what happens when you try this formula on three relationships this month:
the relationship you care about the most at this moment,
the relationship that challenges you the most right now,
and the relationship that needs it the least.

Share your discoveries with me at http://www.abundanceandprosperity.com

*This practice is not intended to “fix” a toxic relationship. Any relationship in which violence, drug abuse, or mental health problems are involved needs assistance from appropriate professionals.

Morgana Rae, the Charmed Life Coach and creator of Financial Alchemy, is the world’s top Relationship with Money coach. She is owner of Charmed Life Coaching, a successful life and business coaching company that guides entrepreneurs to attract more than they chase, market effectively and inexpensively, and to enjoy success without sacrificing their humanity. Contact Morgana and grab your FREE MONEY MAGNET MP3 at http://www.abundanceandprosperity.com.

Going on a Blind Date

By Owen Jones

Blind dating is a fairly frequent method of dating. It often occurs when a friend asks his or her pal to go on a date with someone who is a friend of his or her partner. Now and then, two strangers are introduced with the purpose of blind dating by a mutual friend or colleague. This match-maker generally believes that the two people would make a first-rate couple or at least develop into good friends.

If you are asked to go out on a blind date with a friend of a friend by a someone you have confidence in or even only a coworker, who knows you well, you ought to consider going. If your pal knows the other individual as well as they know you, they might well be right about the pair of you getting along well together. You may even end up being very indebted to your friend, who kept you in mind. After all, it does demonstrate that your friend thinks about your well-being.

Going on a blind date is exhilarating, notably because when you go on a blind date you might not have any idea what the other person looks like or you might have been shown a picture or even told to identify the other person by an accessory of clothing like in some old-fashioned romantic novel - wearing or carrying a red rose, for instance.

In nearly all situations, the person you will be going out with will be someone you have never met or spoken to before or you may have seen them in another class or office, but have never spoken to them and don’t know their name. It is normal to be tense about going on a blind date, partly because you dont know whether the person will like you and partly because you dont know whether you will like the other person. It can be nerve-wracking, but you must try to use that nervous tension to good purpose. Don’t forget, you are both in the same boat after all.

Some individuals honestly get pleasure from being set up on a blind date and many blind dates turn into successful relationships, especially if the correct people set the two of you up. The thrill of meeting someone you have never met before, but who desires to meet you is thrilling.

It is a good piece of advice to attempt to find out as much background as you possibly can about the person, without violating privacy, of course, before you go. Try to be sure that your friend knows the other person well before you go in order to be fairly certain that the date will not be a disaster. However, even that precaution does not guarantee success. Success depends on both of you wanting to make it a pleasant date, whatever you make your mind up to do: drinks, dinner, motion picture etc..

However, even if the two of you do come to a decision that you are not a compatible couple you may meet someone who will grow to be a very good friend of yours in the long run and if that is the result, then it was far from being a failure; you can’t have too many friends and you will be less anxious about the next blind date - a little bit anyway.

Owen Jones, the author of this article writes on several subjects, but is currently involved with Plantronic CS50 USB headset devices. If you would like to know more, please go to our website at Plantronics CS50 Headset

Benefits of Free Match Making Website

By Nair Suresh

Are you looking for a dating website to sign up newly? Do you have some concerns about finding the right partner? If so, read some articles which tell you about the pros and cons of the internet dating services. The fact is that now a days, online dating is the easiest way of finding a life partner. It saves your time as well as money. You dont need to waste your money in a night club or pub in search of your dream date. You dont need to make work excuses to socialize in order to find your life partner. When you use an internet dating website, things become too easy for you. You can search for your partner at the cosines of your home!

There is a lot of illusion being created when two people talk on line. It is actually nice feeling. However, there is a danger in it too. When you meet in real life, you wouldnt find that charm you shared in your dating on web. For avoiding such a situation you should know clearly that what kind of person you are talking with. What the real personality is. For that you should meet your online date as early as possible but it doesnt mean that within a day or two. You should make sure that you are not emotionally attached your online date until you meet the person in the real word. This is too important. Remember matchmaking websites are giving you platform to meet each other and interact but it is your duty to find the right partner and you are responsible for all your acts. Matchmaking website will just help you in meeting a number of people but it is not their responsibility to make you to select the right one.

The online service of matchmaker is a channel through which single people can find their dating partner. The truth is that so many people have tried it and found success. The success stories they tell is actually too encouraging. When you use a totally free online matchmaker services, you do not waste any money on finding a suitable match. There is no hidden fee. Some sites are there to deceive you. They will give you a free trial in the beginning and you can introduce yourself in their website. But when you view some attractive profile in their website, you are not allowed to go further. If you want to proceed they will ask for money. This is a kind of deception actually. However, some website makes it known to you that they are giving you the introduction facility for free but later they will charge you.

Of course, it is your luck that you find the right partner. You can use internet for trying your luck. The fact is that you have a big variety there. You can meet people from all walks of life. You are not alone in searching the soul mate. So the variety and opportunity makes you to pick up the right one for you.

Hi, I am Suresh Nair. A freelance writer and web designer. I have written many articles on free online dating websites and online singles date. I have given free dating tips for adult friend finder and meet Austria dating relationships.

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