How to Free Your Partner and Why is it So Difficult? (college dating tips)

November 20th, 2008 admin Posted in relationships |

By Vicka Tanski

In every relationship there are permitted and forbidden things. Sometimes we decide what are that things together with our partner and sometimes just in our mind.

How do we decide where the edge is and how much we can free our lover?

It depends on how much we love OURSELVES. It’s not a mistake, I really mean us. There is no connection to how much we love our partner.

The real reason to difficulty to free is FEAR:

1) We are afraid that our lover will enjoy the freedom and all the things that he meet there and will not want any more to come back to us.

2) When he/she enjoy someone very attractive from the opposite gender, it can be difficult because all we’ll see: I’m not good enough, or beautiful enough.

3) When we believe that we are not whole and not completed, we will want our partner to fill that lack. We will try to keep them close, because if they go we will have to face that hole inside, that lack of self love. And it can be painful.

But think, do you really want to be with someone, who stays with you only because he has no choice? Or
with one who is with you because he wants to?

Do you think that anything someone does can really heart you? It can’t even touch you!

All your feelings are just a reaction to judgment of the situation, to your thoughts. The reaction to the stories you are telling to yourself about what is happening. Stop to believe to that stupid stories and the suffering will disappear.

When you realize that all you are afraid of is unreal, that it’s only in your mind, there will not be any problem to free your partner. It’s absolutely his own business what he has in his life except you. Just as it’s your business what you are doing with yourself and with your life.

Be one with another to celebrate, not to run away from yourself. When the relationship comes from the right place, there is no problem to free one another. You don’t depend on anyone to feel great.

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To your freedom,
Vicka Tanski.

The Most Important Step Towards Freedom and Happiness, That You Must Know
By Vicka Tanski

What do you think you should do to be really happy?

I heard a lot of different answers:

-I have to be rich
-To love what I have or do
-I need a good family and friends
-And other variations…

But none of them is complete answer.

So, listen carefully:

In order to live in happiness and freedom- “you have to be absolutely, totally, completely YOU!

You have to express yourself full power in all possible ways of expression”- it is the requirement of your soul in this life”

The meaning of this for everyone is different, because everyone has different potential, DNA, information that he/ she carries inside.

Everyone has different desires, and loves different kinds of people, things and activities.

Until you repress your unique desires and try to be anything except yourself and to do anything except what you like, you will limit your happiness and freedom.

If you want your life to be absolutely fulfill, it also not enough to do only one thing you like, and ignore others.

For example: if you like to dance, to sing and to help people to improve their lives, don’t limit yourself to doing only one of these activities. Find the time and opportunity to do all of them.

You cannot imagine how your life will become more exciting, fulfill and satisfying then.

It’s really not so easy in our society to be absolutely yourself. People are constantly judging you, and trying to make you only a “biological robot”, in order to control you.

But tell me, and yourself the truth: what is really important for you :

- Stay small, dependent and weak person, who want to satisfy others and to let them control and use you

- Or become a free person, start living beautiful and exciting life and help others to do the same.

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To Your Freedom,
Vicka Tanski.

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