Midnight Sweethearts

By Constantine Lekendiros

 It’s a very common attribute amongst people. People judge others by their looks all the time. However, when hoping to find someone you can spend the rest of your life with then it is important to silence this trait and be able to look for the more important attributes of someone’s personality.

Unfortunately, everybody does it. At some point everyone should take a step back and realize that subconsciously we all do it, we all have the tendency to be superficial.

Many believe that men do it more often than women when looking for a relationship. Nevertheless, this behavior can be de-constructive when it comes to meeting a woman for a relationship. Every person likes to be appreciated for who they are, not what they look like and this is something that stands as an obstacle for every relationship. Even people who have great physical beauty don’t want to be judged based on that beauty.

The widespread idea is that it is possible to like a person for their physical beauty first and then start to like a person for who they are once you get to know them. Once you find the character of the person agreeable you will start liking the person for who they are. When it comes to dating many men are like that. They look at physical beauty only and don’t try to look deeper than that.

Men find themselves entangled in long but problematic relationships that cause a lot of hardship just because the woman they are dating is beautiful from the outside but doesn’t have the personality traits that match.

The shallowness of some men and the notion that looks are the only determinant to happiness has influenced how women think. Some women are convinced that men only interested in looks and this idea makes them feel insecure about who they are and how they approach relationships and life in general. This comes into play when women get older and less youthful in appearance.

Society and how men think especially has made women terribly self conscious about their looks. When considering what you truly believe is important in a woman. If looks is top on your list it will surely lead to a very dissatisfying experience for you, and your woman.

Another difference regarding how men and women are perceived by the opposite sex is that a man is considered more distinguished looking when his hair takes on the salt and pepper look, whereas women merely look old. Wrinkles on a man are no big deal, but for women the first sign of a wrinkle is cause to consider botox treatment or other cosmetic surgery.

A good example on how this unfortunate social mechanism functions is that many people need to see a person or the other persons picture before they actually get to know them first. Nevertheless, a decision based largely on looks is more suitable for a shallow meaningless relationship rather than anything else.

Both men and women need to learn how to appreciate other people, prospective mates for who they are and not the way they look. In the authors opinion it is imperative for someone who is looking for a relationship, to be able to externalize their inner beauty. An attractive personality is much more important than an attractive shell.

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What do you do when you lose your job?
By Dr. Jennifer Baxt, DMFT, NCC, DCC

 Losing a job, regardless of the reasons, can be an extremely stressful time for anyone, especially if finances are tight. With the way things are going in the economy and stock market these days, many employees, even those who have been with the company a long time, are running the risk of losing their jobs. Companies are trying very hard to stay in business; unfortunately, one of the many things they do to accomplish this is to save money by having fewer salaries and wages to pay. They can no longer keep on as many employees, so they lay some of their workforce off.

It can be frustrating, especially for someone who has been with a company for twenty or so years, to be let go. As if the stress of losing the job wasnt bad enough, other worries start to enter the mind, such as where the money is going to come from to pay the rent or mortgage, where the food will come from for the family and so on. It can be, and is, a lot of weight for one, or even two people within the relationship, to handle. Working through it can seem impossible and there only appears to be nothing but difficulties ahead. Hope is lost, the desire to fight through their troubles is gone and the individual falls into debt and mounting stress.

There is hope and there are ways of getting through this kind of difficulty, but it takes one to stop, take a deep breath and look for help. It can help to talk to someone, to help sort through the mess and chaos created by the loss of a stable situation. Many people will immediately jump to the assumption that there is no help for them or their families, and that the only option for them is to accept defeat with any consequences that may come with it. The truth is that there is help out there for anyone who takes a moment to look and ask for it, and its not necessarily by seeking help from a counselor or therapist in person. There are online counselors who are available to anyone who needs help.

Online counseling is available to anyone who can gain access to the internet and is there so that more people can get the help they need. An online counselor will work with anyone who feels that the stress is becoming too much for them to deal with. Many will shy away from going to therapy to find some help, or even to talk to someone, because they feel too uncomfortable about it. Going through online therapy can be easier because while the confidentiality still exists, the person can communicate with an online therapist from the comfort of their own home. Whether it is just to talk with someone, or to find someone to help them get through this hard time in their life, an online therapist is available through chat rooms, chat forums and e-mail.

Dr. Jennifer Baxt, DMFT, NCC,DCC is the owner of CompleteCounselingSolutions.com which offers a variety of online counseling services. If you would like to know more about Jennifer or any of our online therapists, visit our website.

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